After meeting with experts and other tourists to North Korea, I learned that my experience was not unique.
I can report with confidence that North Koreans flirt, date, and fall in love just like everyone else.
In fact, in many ways the rules regarding sex and dating are relatively lenient in North Korea.
One refugee noted, “The culture of sex in North Korea is not conservative.
In the past it was generally considered a taboo for a man and a woman to marry if they both have the same last name from the same ancestor.
From this cultural influence, the article 809 of the Korean Civil code regulated marriages within a clan in the past, considering it as a type of exogamy.
However, the Korean Constitutional Court found this piece of legislation unconstitutional and asked for an amendment by the legislative branch in a 1997 decision.
Five judges found it unconstitutional and two asked for amendment by the legislative branch, whereas another two opposed the outcome of this decision.
In between their goose-stepping drills these women were doing something that amazed me – they were gossiping.
These were not the Nazi robots that the international media normally portrays the North Korean military as being, but real people. After all, they were schoolgirls (or I guess technically army-girls)!
Getting drunk with friends till dawn, going on dates to the cinema, playing too many video games.