They often come into a relationship believing that my past partners have been abusive or unfaithful, or that my current partner isn't interested in sex and that's why we're poly.
Basically, that he's arrived to save me from my terrible, sad, fat life.
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I knew that there was science to support the fact that men love a woman with a tummy, but I wanted to hear from the other side.
And, just to be clear, the views of these men are not my views — or necessarily the views of Your Tango.
Dating as a polyamorous woman brings with it a lifetime's worth of misconceptions and jealousies.
Add a few extra layers of fat to that experience, and things can get depressing real fast.
I've always wanted to know what goes on inside the heads of men who refuse to date a woman just because she is fat.
On the one hand, as a sex writer, I understand that people are attracted to different things, so I wanted to keep an open mind.
As a non-single, fat, polyamorous woman, I can't tell you how often I've been questioned about my confidence, self-worth, who I am, and why I'm into what I'm into.
If literally the only reason you are interested in me is because I'm fat, you might want to take a step back and get to know a bit about me first. When you tell me I'm not, what you are really saying is that despite my body size, I'm not all those horrible things you tend to associate with fatness.
It's never easy to be rejected for any reason, but fat women get used to it in their interactions with men sadly because it seems to be more socially acceptable to express disgust with fat than it is express other complaints about a person's physical appearance.
But while that's true, all of the fat women in my life have at least one story of men explaining to them that they could never date because of her fatness.
If you doubt my assessment, just read the article written in “Lots of times you see a guy, he could be normal sized or he could be overweight himself, with a woman that is a bit overweight.